In the spirit of the Happy Vibes of Valentines Day, allow me to ruminate on this line. It has been said, a happy wife means a happy life. I think I actually saw some articles claiming that this is scientifically proven. Maybe. But I’m actually a bit unhappy about this term. Or confused. I’m not really sure.
On the surface, it’s always said as a joke, with knowing smile and a wink to boot. Make your wife happy and your life will be happy. Give her your credit card, woo her everyday, make her coffee, give her flowers. Ibigay ang luho. Or at another end, be the Andres of her life. In return she’ll give you the remote control, maybe a massage and something extra after. It’s a win win, husband makes wife happy, wife reciprocates.
So why exactly am I uncomfortable with it? Im a wife and supposedly, this gives me more control.I’m unhappy with it because it discounts the fact that a marriage is, and should be a partnership. It’s about being open and understanding. Its about communicating.
The happy wife happy life thing is like avoiding confrontation. Talking out the tough subjects — money, religion, fidelity, raising kids —will not be the most fun you’ve had, but it’ll be valuable.